I think the greatest gift in life is to be loved unconditionally by someone...no,no! I am not talking about your parents or your siblings. I am talking about being able to find that special someone in your life whom you'll be able to connect with spiritually,intellectually,intimately,emotionally and the list goes on.
Yes, you may be married and so can you absolutely say that your spouse is that special someone for you? If so, why do I always hear my married friends telling me this,"Did I marry the right person?" Why all this doubt about one's spouse?
Is it possible to find that special someone after you are married to someone else? You didn't realize this but you settled for second best because you had given up hope of ever finding that special someone. But then that person comes into your life after so many years of marriage!
By now, perhaps you would have had a couple of children and some of you may not have had any kids. This person enters your life. You know that there is something missing in your marriage. This person you realize is the missing link. What do you do? Fall in love and then have an affair with your Mr. or Ms. Right?
Yes, you have flowers in your hair and she's whispering loving words in your ear....you are feeling alive and young again. This person sees you in a totally different way. You are happy and you walk on air the whole day, you hum and look at flowers and smile or perhaps just think about the facial expressions of your lover. You have definitely fallen deeply in love with that person...your knight in shining armour, your sexy seductress. Wow! Life is good and you are in heaven. Then almost as fast as you began day dreaming, something slaps you back to reality.
All the lies that you are telling your spouse just so you can meet your loved one at a secret rendezvous. Worst still, the sex is so explosive that you cannot get enough of your lover and you don't want intimacy with your spouse anymore!
If your spouse finds out, you have come to the point where you have to make a decision...whether this new person in your life is worth all that you are going to give up your present life for. Or, if your spouse doesn't find out, you go on with your top secret affair till death do you part.
My friends, the latter hardly happens because the former happens many,many more times than the latter. Some people say that, 'The heart wants just what the heart wants..'
I often ask myself this question. "Why can't we be free to love whomever we want? " I also answer this question by saying that,"There are always grave consequences to one's actions."
People say we are not animals because we have feelings and the ability to think. So, the people who have feelings and the ability to think should therefore not even think about loving anyone they want. This will then come back to finding that special someone to love us unconditionally...free love will not bring us to that person only lots of luck and your gut feeling will.
Yes, you may be married and so can you absolutely say that your spouse is that special someone for you? If so, why do I always hear my married friends telling me this,"Did I marry the right person?" Why all this doubt about one's spouse?
Is it possible to find that special someone after you are married to someone else? You didn't realize this but you settled for second best because you had given up hope of ever finding that special someone. But then that person comes into your life after so many years of marriage!
By now, perhaps you would have had a couple of children and some of you may not have had any kids. This person enters your life. You know that there is something missing in your marriage. This person you realize is the missing link. What do you do? Fall in love and then have an affair with your Mr. or Ms. Right?
Yes, you have flowers in your hair and she's whispering loving words in your ear....you are feeling alive and young again. This person sees you in a totally different way. You are happy and you walk on air the whole day, you hum and look at flowers and smile or perhaps just think about the facial expressions of your lover. You have definitely fallen deeply in love with that person...your knight in shining armour, your sexy seductress. Wow! Life is good and you are in heaven. Then almost as fast as you began day dreaming, something slaps you back to reality.
All the lies that you are telling your spouse just so you can meet your loved one at a secret rendezvous. Worst still, the sex is so explosive that you cannot get enough of your lover and you don't want intimacy with your spouse anymore!
If your spouse finds out, you have come to the point where you have to make a decision...whether this new person in your life is worth all that you are going to give up your present life for. Or, if your spouse doesn't find out, you go on with your top secret affair till death do you part.
My friends, the latter hardly happens because the former happens many,many more times than the latter. Some people say that, 'The heart wants just what the heart wants..'
I often ask myself this question. "Why can't we be free to love whomever we want? " I also answer this question by saying that,"There are always grave consequences to one's actions."
People say we are not animals because we have feelings and the ability to think. So, the people who have feelings and the ability to think should therefore not even think about loving anyone they want. This will then come back to finding that special someone to love us unconditionally...free love will not bring us to that person only lots of luck and your gut feeling will.
1 comment:
Free love eh? Well Neneps, I enjoyed reading this work of yours. I know what it's like...I have been there. Sometimes...the choices that we make...yes...the choices that we make...well it's a free world out there. Good writing.
Nicholas Tze
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