Excuse Me! I am MBA...

I thought about whether I should write about this topic or just leave it be. But considering the fact that I know a few of my acquaintances who are MBA, I thought I should share this with you my fellow readers. Think about it, don't be quick to judge. Let your belief system take a back seat first and really concentrate on what I have written here. That is all I ask of you.

MBA...what on earth is it? Well it is certainly not Master of Business Administration nor is it Media Bloggers Association. No, it is something closer to the heart. MBA here stands for Married But Available!

So, I am talking about all those people who are legally married and love their spouse very much but feel that they are still seriously available for a romantic tryst with the people they 'like' or 'whatever they can get' to put it crudely. Those who are in an unhappy marriage and feel that they are now MBA are not included in this category because they have a reason to stray from their marriage.

I often ask myself as to why they do this? You can find them everywhere. Perhaps you too know some of them who deserve this title. Let me tell you about a friend's friend whom we shall call Thomas. He's a very rich businessman. He's got it all. A mansion, a trophy wife and four beautiful children plus two dogs. He is admired and looked up to where ever he goes. His wife is the love of his life and she is the most 'important' person to him. You admire them. You say to yourself, wow! They are an ideal couple.

Then one weekend, you go to a pub to enjoy the ambiance there and you see Thomas in a dimly lit corner with a woman around his arms. You think nothing of it...you look away and then you see them smooching. Something is wrong somewhere.

The next day, you see Thomas at a party with his wife. You decide to talk to him because you are his friend. You tell him that you saw him yesterday with a woman and then he admits it and says that his lady friend knows that he's married. He has told his lady friend that he loves his wife very much and that this lady friend will be his girlfriend until she finds someone else. She's just a 'time pass' for him. "I always need to be around the people who love me", he says to you. You know for sure that Thomas is not just seeing his lady friend behind his wife's back but he's also sleeping with her. You are disgusted with what Thomas had told you and you walk away. You look at his beautiful wife...she's smiling and talking to her friends. Thomas is right beside her, leaning now and then to kiss her just like what he had done to his other woman the night before. You walk away hoping in your heart that the 'moral police' will arrest him.

This is just one profile of an MBA culprit. There are too many out there...just like Thomas. They are not only men but also women. Again I stress here that these people NEVER commit to their lovers. They remain happily married. The MBA do love their lovers but do not have a meaningful relationship with them. Most of the time it is purely physical.

There are so many questions that I'd like to pose to the MBA. No I don't want to judge them, just understand them that's all. I think that deep down inside, they truly don't mean to hurt their spouses or even 'cheat' on them. I asked a friend of mine as to why he is MBA and he told me that he is just not meant to be a one woman man although he's completely devoted to his wife. He told me that they have a great intimate relationship but he's just not meant to be monogamous.

Well I have come to theorize that perhaps we humans are not meant to live a monogamous life regardless of our gender after all. Some of us have very strong primal needs that have to be fulfilled. Marriage is just an institution to cage those needs. The right and proper thing to do. The underlying message here is that we all seek for freedom in different ways I suppose. Breaking away from the shackles of truth, love, marriage, honour, responsibilities etc. Just to be free and do what we really want...but then again...will we be really free doing what we want?